What is self-compassion?

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Self-compassion is simply giving ourselves the same care and kindness, that we would give to a good friend who was having a difficult time.

When we are struggling in some way, or when we have made a mistake or feel inadequate, instead of being harshly self-critical, we meet ourselves with kindness and understanding. We motivate ourselves to make change and reach our goals, by being a strong, supportive inner coach for ourselves, rather than by beating ourselves up.

Self-compassion helps us to embrace our whole self, including our human imperfections.

What self-compassion is not

Self-compassion is not self-pity, it’s not self-indulgence nor is it selfish or letting ourselves ‘off the hook’. Self-compassion does not take away our drive to succeed, quite the reverse. When we back ourselves with kindness and understanding, we are less frightened of failure and more likely to reach our goals.

What the research shows

Training in Self-Compassion is a very powerful way to increase our resilience, and it improves our physical and mental wellbeing.

There is a wealth of scientific evidence behind the 8 week Mindful Self-Compassion Course developed by researcher Kristen Neff and psychotherapist, Chris Germer.

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“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.”
Christopher K. Germer